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The relationship killer (Social Media)


So you've just started a new relationship but he is reluctant to post anything about you on his social media platforms. You get frustrated and the first thing that pops into your mind is that he is being unfaithful for he is ashamed of you. Is it that important for the world to know about the new love in your life? Do you need to share every aspect of your relationship with the world? Like the question stated, it's your relationship not the entire world therefore the world needs to know nothing that takes place in your relationship. The need to put your love life out there often comes from the want of social media validation. We want people to see that we are in love and we want them to be accepting of the love that we have found. Many of my readers will pause right there and disagree with me but that is indeed the truth even if you don't want to accept it. Some of us spend more time on the social media portrayal of our love life than we do on the actual relationship. What a pity!! 

When we decide to share our relationship with the world we let in both the positive and the negative. The negative can lead to arguments within the relationship and could result in an ultimate breakup. Social media also tests your tolerance level. As your partner could receive so much attention from the social media world that you end up feeling inadequate. Let me just say this right now that showcasing your relationship on social media doesn't mean that your partner is faithful and never showcasing your partner doesn't mean that they are unfaithful. In my experiences it's often times the ones who are open with their relationship on social media sites who are the ones who are unfaithful in real life. Keep in mind however that everyone is different and every relationship is different. But if your partner can't make you feel special without making a social media post about you I suggest that you find another partner immediately.

What it all stems from is that you want the entire social media world to know that your partner lives and cares for you. Why does it matter if the world knows or not? It should be enough that you and your partner know how you feel about each other. The social media validation is one of the main issues as to why relationships are falling apart so easily these days. We need to get out of the social media world and start to live in the real world. We are so quick to state that the whole world won't get out of our business when we are the ones who put our business on display. Stop giving people reasons to have things to say about us and reasons to cast judgments. The less people know about what's going on on your life the better.
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