You are at that point in your relationship where you couldn't be happier. He is flooding you with the complete five start treatment. He calls you to check up on you and he reminds you everyday as to how much you mean to him. His words and nice treatment are leading you to slowly open your legs for him. To erase all doubt from your mind he then says he loves you. All you needed to hear was the proclamation of love. You have given into what you perceived to be love. The sex is over and now hes's changing. He doesn't make plans to go out anymore, he doesn't text you as often, he doesn't tell you how happy you make him anymore and the five star treatment is now down to a barely visible one star. What went wrong? He introduced the D and that was all he wanted to do. You were so giddy an in need of a little attention that you fell for a couple sweet words and a little effort. A little effort went a far way for him. You will never hear the words love again from

  You just ended a long term relationship and you are feeling discouraged thinking about the fact that now you have to start all over so you can find your love before the clock stops. This clock isn't the clock of life but the imaginary clock that you have placed to monitor your love life. This clock is set based on society's timing or even your family's timing. We give ourselves a certain amount of years to accomplish certain things such as our education and business endeavors. However, it is foolish to  put a time on how and when you will fall in love. You have no control over when this takes place. You can go through the dating process, you can prepare yourself the most suitable way to meet your perfect partner but you can never determine the time at which this person will walk into your life. The stress comes into place when we start to realize that others have found love long before their set time. You start to wonder what you are doing wrong and whether or not you

Image: Lovestruckcollection So you've been in a couple relationships and despite giving it your all you still end up on the failing end at the end of the day. What keeps going wrong? Why can't you seem to find the perfect partner for you? Are you just simply bad at choosing partners or are you just looking for the right things in the wrong place. You are looking for a woman who will support you and love you for who you are but you continually pursue women who have no depth. You seek out women who are openly obsessed with materialistic things and their looks but somehow you expect those women to be open to loving and investing in you? The truth is many times it isn't that we failed at a relationship it is that we continually give our all to people who don't even understand the meaning of sacrifice. We can't expect someone to appreciate the love we give them if they have no idea of the meaning of love itself because of their self obsession. When a King comes

 I love to hear the stories of elderly couples of how they fell in love and how they manage to stay in love for many years. It's very encouraging to hear stories that lead you to believe that maybe love is really still out there for you. Where is the love? For young people like myself I believe that ego has played a huge role in breaking down relationships. Everybody wants to be right all the time, everybody wants to look perfect to the world, everybody is looking for a partner that they will look good with. When this happens and then it falls apart they feel as if it's best to give up on love. The truth is it was never love to begin with. Love never failed us it was what we believed to be love. Everybody is in a rush to the altar and we don't take things slowly enough so that we can have long lasting connections. Our calls are quick and we text more than we call, we focus too much on sex and less on intimacy. We have let social media dictate what our relationships s

Apparently there is a deadline out there for every phase of your life. By a certain age you should have your own house, have children and be married. Growing up you aren't aware of this deadline until you start to get up in age and you are approaching that 30+ mark. You start to hear how much you are wasting your life and how much you will end up old and lonely.  I'm now being informed of this deadline at the age of 24 and without even giving it thought it start to plays with your mind. Am I really wasting my life? Then I start to look at these individuals who are reminding me of the deadlines that I'm facing and I realize that many of them have passed these so called deadlines or they aren't happy with the outcome of their lives after meeting these deadlines. We aren't created the same so why are we expected to move at the same speed. What works for someone will not necessarily work for another. Many find the right partner young others have to try a little har

Well, it's Father's Day today and not much is being said on social media platforms in comparison to Mother's Day that was celebrated in May. Where are our Jamaican fathers? When some people think of their fathers they think nothing but hatred. For many, they have never met their father or their father doesn't have a positive impact on their lives. But in the same breath there are those fathers who took up the role from day one and have always placed their children first. We need to not cloud the day with the memories of the disappointing fathers but spread it with thankfulness for those who live up their responsibilities each and every day. Jamaica needs fathers to stand up and be responsible for grooming their children in the right way. I want to rebuke mothers who keep their children from their father because of their own hatred for the father. Mothers, don't be selfish because of your own feelings but remember the needs of your child. Can you imagine how much bet

We all have these plans for what we want to do next week,the months to come or even in a couple years. The sad thing about it is, we don't even know what will reach us or even if we will live to see the end of the day. We ourselves may have a good heart and would never think to bring harm to another human being but there are others around us who think of evil every single day and have not even an ounce of love within them. We never know when we will come across people like this because most of the times they blend in with society and pretend to be at one with each and everyone of us. What we do have control over is our very own actions and how we react in the face of hatred. With each and everyday we are left to wonder if there is any love really left in this world. Everyone is fighting for a cause but that fight leads to more anger more than love and unity. Is there any hope still left in this world? Our youth have lost the meaning of love and even respect for the spiritu

" I want to give my children everything that I wasn't given as a child", how often do we hear these words being said by parents? Very often right? It's a very good concept but parents please don't forget to give them the things that you received as well. The more times have evolved the less time is being spent with those who we care about. Parents are busy working hard to give their children all that they didn't get as a child that they forget to give them the most valuable of things, love. Now more than ever children are suffering from depression and seeking outlets to get attention from because they aren't getting it from their parents. The social media world paints an image that dressing in matching outfits with your child or posting several pictures with your child shows that you are a good parent. A picture is just a picture and it can hide one thousand stories.  I can guarantee you that when your child grows up what they will remember most is the lov

Everyone seems to have all the advice to give you to keep your relationship together but not so much advice is found after the relationship has come to an end. One of the biggest mistakes that people make is moving on too soon after a relationship is over. Today, I'm going to highlight some of the dangers of moving on too soon without giving yourself enough time to heal. ✅ After the end of a painful relationship you are in a very vulnerable state and people could end up taking advantage of your situation. They may initially appear to be a comforter but slowly make their moves and before you know it you think you have fallen in love.  ✅ The ending of a relationship sometimes seems women running to the first open arms and end up engaging in risky sexual behaviour. Engaging in these risky sexual behaviour post break up will have you feeling regretful later on and leave you with not the best of reputations. ✅ One of the biggest dangers of moving on too quickly is that you still have yo

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love." This was how I saw it: "As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. Ho wever, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetim

Close your eyes and imagine a world without the love of a mother When things are hard and we can't seem to  find the answers  Just whisper the problems to mama and she would always provide the answers Whenever we fell down she was the one to lift us high and tell us "Hush nuh mind mi chile" Learning was always a must no matter if the cost of the books were sky high " Work with what you have my child, better will come in a little while" When food was short she never allowed our bellies to rumble  Out of the smallest of flour she made big dumplings for the community to devour Is there anything greater than a mothers love for a child? Even the beatings we got we can smile about now The beatings taught us discipline and respect We had to say good day or good night to whoever we met Mother's arms were so comforting it took all the burden away Mother's smile was so reassuring that she was the best remedy for my pain Mother&#

Recently,I have been making observations on social media sites a little more than I usually do. My focus was primarily on the standards that people have these days. What makes someone fall in love and what makes them stay in love? These days it seems as if young girls are conditioned to look first and foremost on the weight of a man's pocket before they look at  his character. Don't get me wrong nothing is wrong with wanting someone who can provide for you but why make it solely about just that? Many of the heartbreak that women face these days are because they are too easily hypnotized by the dollar bills and too easily swayed by a man's status in society. As it relates to men these days something has been puzzling me as well. Why would a man leave a women who stood by him while he had nothing until he achieved his dreams then get up and leave her  for the first gold digger that walks by? Men need to wise up and stop be hypnotized by the sway of hips and naked flesh and st

She made you weak in the knees I made you stand tall She set your lips on fire I made your heart cold  I gave you such pure true love she gave you the ultimate passion  You had the best of both worlds till i became bold  Why continue to sprinkle your dry soul with love when my pastures remained parched  The one who you introduced as your friend was now the one you kissed  The one who stood by your side and cared for you the best was no longer the one to make your eyes sparkle She never shouted at you she wore the pain beneath her smile You lifted your hand to meet her delicate flesh And she already knew what would come next  The tears covered your face as you begged for forgiveness She walked out that day and said goodbye to the world of pain you gave her Now you have moved on and profess to be happy The one who made you weak in the knees now brings you to your knees  You hold her hand and ask her to marry you  You kiss her lips as she says yes and the fa

We pretend to honour Bob Marley on the 7th of February His legacy lives on daily then why do we only remember him only once yearly? Children parade the streets in the latest Bob Marley jersey Ask them to name two of his songs  They mumble as if they can't speak clearly Bob brought the message of love and unity Jamaicans now are filled with hatred and have become even more unruly Do you listen to the words of his songs or just rock to the melody of the band? Are you making Bob proud? He shakes from the ground, confused as to what the world has come to We praise his efforts, speak of the greatness of his messages  Filled with the sweet words he sang but empty with no motivation garnered from the beautiful man Sweet one love is a wonderful jam As the song ends, the love ends The  powerful vibrations stand still in your mind as you return to the hate that has consumed your mind Let us make Bob proud by embracing the message of true love With each verse of his songs let us become closer

He whispers in your ear and says "Baby will you be my valentine tonight?" He holds your hips as you tip to kiss his  beautiful lips  You close your eyes as you remember the times The times he would shake you and shout and scare you  The candle light shines bright as his brown eyes sparkle Could you really be his valentine tonight? He raises his hands and you shiver with fear  The love you have for him is still there His strong cologne consumes your thoughts as you fall prey to his charm Will I once again give in and be his one last time? How could one person look so good yet cause me so much pain All I want is just to feel his love all over again The night runs on and he showers me with tender care The candle blows out and I know his powerful blow is near He pauses and smiles and says remember "you are mine tonight my dear" The day is Valentine's Day and love is in the air The air I breathe is filled with fear mixed wi

How much louder must I cry out for you to feel the pain you have caused me? This relationship is a hard one I don't know how I manage it for so long My body is filled with bruises and I can hardly keep the storm from destroying my foundation In the west and the east they fight over me but I still try to remain faithful to each and everyone Recently however I noticed that many of my broken bones will never mend to become one  These foreign substances you have allowed to exploit my body For many years I have given the best of myself to you but not much good it has done The highest bidder will come and my body will be owned by another foreign land  The children I bring into this world have turn their backs on me My body is polluted,my blood is weak, I can barely make ends meet Yet some of you throw stones at me when I can't give you anything to eat Why do you continue to abuse me when I have done you no wrong? What if I decide to stop lending you my hands to keep your houses stand

Love Affair 2014 By Saccheen Laing Have you chosen which path to go in life? Don't worry it isn't a difficult question or is it? The love affair strengthened in 2014  As Digicel and lime continued to fight for our hearts Thousands switching and call rates fluctuating Many remained loyal while others fell victim to the attractiveness of free calls No matter where you turned you felt the heat and passion of the lime and Digicel brawl Five to ten messages each day, is it love or obsession  Our hearts lay in a limbo as we choose our path  Annoyance on one and heartbreak on the other This love affair is clearly like no other. PNP and JLP continued to state their claims Both promising and pleading for a dedicated relationship The gold diggers who found love with the PNP for promises of wealth and elevated statuses  Quickly abandoned ship when the waves got rocky and the dollar slipped  Many where heard complaining about the commitment to the IMF Some stood firm accepting the threesom