You are at that point in your relationship where you couldn't be happier. He is flooding you with the complete five start treatment. He calls you to check up on you and he reminds you everyday as to how much you mean to him. His words and nice treatment are leading you to slowly open your legs for him. To erase all doubt from your mind he then says he loves you. All you needed to hear was the proclamation of love. You have given into what you perceived to be love. The sex is over and now hes's changing. He doesn't make plans to go out anymore, he doesn't text you as often, he doesn't tell you how happy you make him anymore and the five star treatment is now down to a barely visible one star. What went wrong? He introduced the D and that was all he wanted to do. You were so giddy an in need of a little attention that you fell for a couple sweet words and a little effort. A little effort went a far way for him. You will never hear the words love again from

  Image source: Jamaica Observer Sometimes I sit down and think to myself as to whether or not I would really want to bring a child into this world under these conditions. When watching television here in Jamaica, one of the most popular sentiments you will hear is " We want justice" but how many of these cries are actually heard?  Like many other things here in Jamaica you can get certain needs depending on or only if you are 'Sir Tom or Miss Prudence' living in a mansion. Justice does exist but exist for a selected few and that is the truth of the matter. We can take our eyes to overseas and see the fear that people live in because of a justice system that has failed them but we can keep our eyes right here at home and realize that this system wasn't created for us 'average' Jamaicans.    We have to learn to educate ourselves so that we can use our voice and not accept any and anything that is served on a platter to us because we don't kn

In quiet moments where are your thoughts? Do you constantly focus on the things you lack or the things that you are blessed with? I found myself dwelling a lot on the things that I lacked in my quiet moments until I realized that I was draining myself worrying more than being appreciative. We live in a world where we can find inspiration on all corners but some of us choose to walk on the straight path and ignore the turns for inspirations. Don't act as if you are always strong and you've never been weak. Don't act like you've never found yourself in a hopeless situation. One thing I tell myself daily is that I never have all the answers so everyday I wake up I try to grow in my personal and spiritual development. Many of us spend too much of our time trying to explain the concept of love rather than actually showing love. Many of us spend too much time trying to explain why we are good people than actually showing our goodness. We have found ourselves being overly e

Image: Lovestruckcollection So you've been in a couple relationships and despite giving it your all you still end up on the failing end at the end of the day. What keeps going wrong? Why can't you seem to find the perfect partner for you? Are you just simply bad at choosing partners or are you just looking for the right things in the wrong place. You are looking for a woman who will support you and love you for who you are but you continually pursue women who have no depth. You seek out women who are openly obsessed with materialistic things and their looks but somehow you expect those women to be open to loving and investing in you? The truth is many times it isn't that we failed at a relationship it is that we continually give our all to people who don't even understand the meaning of sacrifice. We can't expect someone to appreciate the love we give them if they have no idea of the meaning of love itself because of their self obsession. When a King comes

People tend to shy away from the topic of depression as if it's something that isn't experienced or as if it isn't as serious as those who experience it make it out to seem. When you are young you are encouraged to live your life to the fullest and when you are young depression should be the furthest thing from your mind. Well wake up people! Young people are suffering and they are feeling forsaken!       What we need to remember is that people deal with things differently. One individual may find it easy to get over heartbreak while another will suffer daily to heal. One individual may find it easy to get over academic failure while another will struggle daily with overcoming. One individual will find it easy to be alone without social interactions while another will fall apart if they have no one to talk to. Young people are constantly faced in these times with pressures from all over especially that of social media. Some of us can find ourselves feeling inadequate

    It is really beautiful to see how much recognition black women are getting now a days for the beauty of their skin and hair. However, I've noticed that when it comes to body types women who are more curvy with big breasts and bottom are the ones who used to represent what a black queen represents. I'm wondering what about the women who aren't so well endowed don't they qualify as queens? Pushing only this type or mostly this type will leave so many of our beautiful queens feeling inadequate. Our women are already left with images of what the perfect female looks like on social media instead of having the support of the black community women are left feeling the same way. We need to remember that just as our black women come in different skin shades they come in different body types. A queen should be known as a queen by the way she speaks, the goodness in her heart, her knowledge of self and the natural beauty she has. Our women can also highlight their natural at

W ell now I am known as Saccheen the poet but there was a time when I would never share my words with anyone. When I was younger I was known as the quiet one and the one who was very reserved and had a very very small circle. The only thing that has changed now really is that I'm not as quiet as I once was but I still have that small circle. For me poetry is my comfort, poetry is my best and most understanding friend. I've always loved nature and discovering new places but I've never been afforded the opportunity to travel much literally but I have done so through my poetry. I have people from Africa to France to even Australia who have stumbled across my work and have fallen in love. So despite not being able to physically travel I can proudly say that a piece of me has been to some very beautiful places. I choose what words I use but I can't control how others interpret them and that's what excites me the most about sharing my poetry, I always enjoy looki

As a young lady growing up in these times isn't the easiest of things. We are constantly told to be proud of how we look and to always be confident. Often times we are told to be proud of ourselves by people who aren't proud of themselves. What I mean is that you will see an influential individual share an image of flawless skin and beautiful long flowing hair with a caption of love me with all my flaws and all. If you are indeed proud of these flaws why are they hidden? Wher e are the flaws you speak of when you are proudly showing us a touched up image of yourself? For those of us who will never have a huge fan base to validate our looks every couple of seconds how do we become confident? Then there are those who will share an inspirational quote about how what's on the inside matters most yet they are the first to share images of individuals to make fun of them because of how they look. The world gives us app after app to smoothen,lighten, curve and shape our images

When a female posts a revealing picture on social media or dresses revealing in public there are two sides to the opinion chart. There are those who believe the female is an attention seeker and doesn't value herself and there is another side that believes she is brave and confident in her own skin. Now there is another side when you flip it over which is the side of the natural community who believes that when a female who doesn't wear her natural hair or 'natural looking protective styles' and dresses revealing she has no self worth and lacks knowledge of self. On the other hand if a female dresses in the same manner but has her natural hair on display and is out in the midst of nature she is an empress and proud of her roots. Maybe I am forgetful but when I was growing up an empress always took pride in how she carried herself. She was always well groomed and always fully clothed in her traditional dress and clothed with knowledge of her roots. Now a days the te

(Image source:Loop Jamaica) Here I was sitting in front of my television screen watching Magnum Kings and Queens of Dancehall like I do basically every Saturday. The show was running smoothly and I was fully immersed in the various performances. Just as I got prepared to hear the comments of Miss Kitty like I always do her body language changed and she prepared to release words that in my opinion she will come to regret. After imparting her words in such a knowledgeable fashion I figured that the show would either break or just quickly move to the next segment. Well, no such luck as Yanique the curvy diva made her rebuttal. Immediately, social media went into fourth gear and hasn't slowed down since then with various opinions on the incident. From where I sat I was simply disappointed in the unprofessional behaviour of both ladies. Firstly, Miss Kitty for addressing the issue on the platform that she did. The issues that she may or may not have with Yanique is not the conc

Tribute to  Jordan Foote By:Saccheen Laing He sits on  the sidelines With determination in his eyes Wanting to touch the ball once more and lift his team to victory His mind is fixed on the ball but his body is failing In the midst of his pain his eyes remain on the ball Skillfully maneuvering the obstacles he flashes a bright smile “I will be back on the pitch in a little while” Cancer clouds tried to block his vision But even when he lost his most valuable tool he still would sit on the pitch  with eyes fixed on the ball I remember being motivated as he took over my television screen The odds against him he still had the will to win The entire nation stood behind  him and cheered him on The clouds grew thicker and cancer would claim the one who captivated us all Even as his eyes have closed his soul is still fixed on the ball Jordan is an inspiration to us all! His body has failed him but his soul is still here to remind us To never give up an

(Image source: The Jamaica Gleaner)   At the young age of 24 yrs old I am officially turned off by what takes place in the political arena in Jamaica. I fall in the minority group of Jamaican young people who actually keep up to date on world affairs and the daily ins and outs of my country through the eyes of the media as well as my very own observations. The night the election was called I sat at home and watched from my TV screen how dedicated supporters stood for hours to see their leader take the stage and announce the date. I didn't even attempt to stay up and watch the entire broadcast because I had work in the morning and the date affected me in no way or form. The date was called and immediately after the entire nation seemed to turn upside down. Shootings were claimed to be politically linked and people became even fearful to wear their favourite outfit because of the colour scheme. As a young person the behaviour of our leaders is enough to instantly turn

(Available on Amazon and Barnes&Noble for purchase) Wow! Firstly, I want to apologize for being away for such a long time, I promise you that I will never neglect you again. I have been so busy pushing my new book that I completely forgot about my blog. To keep up with my daily activities I recommend that you follow me on Instagram @saccheenlaing_poet. So what has this poet been up to? Well this week I launched my T-shirt line, a line featuring some of my quotes and poems. Being a poet and not having much of a social life leaves me with all the time in the world to focus on ways to push my writing more. I'm not suggesting that a social life isn't important I'm just putting it out there that it can be difficult for a poet who often times tends to love her words more than she loves human interactions. I'm not sure it it's the same for other poets but I tend to feel overwhelmed having day to day conversations but as soon as I curl up and star to write or

For many years I was that odd person in classes who had to write everything on paper before I ever typed it on a computer. From simply quotes, poems to essays and lecture notes it all had to be written with  pencil on my paper. This week I struggled with writting my very first novel because I decided to type instead of writting on my paper like I always do. Am I the only writer who has to write before typing? The other struggled I faced this week was that of balancing the time I give to building up the empire of others and building my very own. I attending a publishing seminar for well needed tips going forward into publishing. Even though I've published two books you can always learn more to ensure that you improve each and every time. My advice for writers this week is to keep pushing forward even when the ideas aren't coming just give yourself time. Never become arrogant and always think about what will resonate with your reader. Never try to change yourself because believe

So I woke up this morning feeling like a big dark cloud on a sunny day. Have you ever just felt down out of the blue because of disappointments from years ago? When I woke up this morning tears came to my eyes as I lingered on the thought of why bad things happen to good people. You can give your very best to the world, treat people with kindness and never expect anything from them in return. I was always told that I will always be blessed for the good I have done. When will this blessing come exactly? I started to think about how easy it is for people to be mean towards me and how hard each day can be when  the world seems to just be out to get me. I started to ask myself what I ever did to deserve any of this and no answer comes to mind. I've simply just been handed a bad hand in life and apparently there is nothing I can do about it. I'm not writing this to seek sympathy from anyone. I'm writing this to see if I'm really alone in this world. Do you ever feel like no

I attended  basic and primary school in the heart of Spanish Town. I then went on to attend high  school in Kingston. Through it all I remained in Spanish Town and for almost 24 years I've called Spanish Town, Jamaica my home. The stigma attached to my community is known worldwide and not much is expected of the people who call it home. Despite the odds against us several high achievers have emerged from Spanish Town. However, I'm not here to focus on Spanish Town today I'm here to speak about the struggles of young people in Jamaica. While the leaders of my country are busy arguing over apologies, having elections and making decisions about prions,our country is falling apart. Young ladies are being attacked and killed, young men with dreams of making a difference are being killed , young people are graduating with qualifications but no job opportunities. Our leaders have all these visions of hope but apparently our safety comes last on their list of priorities.  Walk

One of the most popular terms these days is that of the sidechick. What is frightening however, is that women are quite happy with playing the runner up position in a man's life. So,the title of this post is how to be the perfect sidechick. No, I don't approve of any woman playing that role so the answer to being the perfect sidechick is to not be one at all. A woman should never feel comfortable being second place in a man's life and a woman should never accept that their man has another woman on the side. It's not the men who have made this term popular it's the women who accept the position and even take it a step closer to brag about it. Any woman who brags about being second place in a man's life is a woman who has no worth and a woman who believes that her man can't help but keep another woman on the side also has lost her worth. If we as women get up and realize our value and not accept these terms then people will stand up and start taking r

Whether we like it or not we have to come across someone either sooner or later. There are times when we become so frustrated with even seeing another human cross our path. There are those who pretend like things are picture perfect all the time and they love everyone every single day. Today, I'm here to break that pretending nature and to say confidently that about two or three days out of the week I would rather not see or hear from another human being. I'm that person who feels best when I'm in my own company but I do enjoy the company of a selected few. So this blog post is entitled how to solve the biggest problems with people. Everyone has problems with someone every now and again and if you say you don't you are probably the biggest pretender on earth. What I do to solve my biggest problems with people is to avoid them and clear my mind. I try to understand their reasons for why they are the way they are, I also try to place my self in the situation to see h

Let me start off firstly by saying my hair is currently in a state of transition. I've been transitioning from relaxed back to its natural state but I'm still not sure if I will take the ultimate step and cut off my relaxed ends. The natural movement is a beautiful movement to see. I love seeing our ladies embracing their natural hair textures. However, what I can't stand to see is the hatred that they show towards those ladies who have opted not to go back to their natural textures for whatever reasons.  Natural hair ladies are always quick to say that men shouldn't be focusing on their exterior but on what's on the inside yet still they spend all their time speaking down on the physical exteriors of ladies with relaxed hair. Please ladies don't forget that a couple months ago or years ago you were fully contented with your relaxed hair and would question natural hair girls for not doing the same. The next issue I have is when natural hair girls put

My life is my life and your life is your life. Simply put we need to spend more time focusing on ourselves. Everyday we come across people who see, to have life figured out. They have the perfect house, job and family.  However, do they really have everything figured out or are we just being fooled into thinking they do? Yes, there are people who have figured things out and are living out their dreams but there are those who are simply putting on a show tho let the world believe that they have figured it all out. This show will fool the world but it will do nothing for you. There are individuals who put so much effort into pushing the perfect images and telling the perfect stories of their life but put little or no effort into actually putting some truth to these images and stories. At the end of the day the truth will always come out. You are the one who will actually have to live with the true state of your life. Those who you put on the show for will just continue to look on in from