The question asked in my blog title will probably upset many Jamaicans and lovers of Jamaica but the question really needs to be asked. I've noticed that Jamaicans will look at the headline of an article or read the first sentence and simply start to sate their opinions on the issue despite not reading the entire article through comprehensively. Jamaicans are very hard working people but can be very lazy when it comes to reading. On my way to and from work each day I read a book on my journey and I'm looked upon by others as if I'm doing something out of the norm. Without a thirst for knowledge how will our country even make steps to improve? The lazy attitude when it comes to reading and comprehension will be the reason why we continue to choose the wrong representatives to lead our country. What brought on this question was the recent proclamation by the British Prime minister that a prison will be built in Jamaica to accommodate Jamaicans serving term in Briti

One of the most popular terms these days is that of the sidechick. What is frightening however, is that women are quite happy with playing the runner up position in a man's life. So,the title of this post is how to be the perfect sidechick. No, I don't approve of any woman playing that role so the answer to being the perfect sidechick is to not be one at all. A woman should never feel comfortable being second place in a man's life and a woman should never accept that their man has another woman on the side. It's not the men who have made this term popular it's the women who accept the position and even take it a step closer to brag about it. Any woman who brags about being second place in a man's life is a woman who has no worth and a woman who believes that her man can't help but keep another woman on the side also has lost her worth. If we as women get up and realize our value and not accept these terms then people will stand up and start taking r

Whether we like it or not we have to come across someone either sooner or later. There are times when we become so frustrated with even seeing another human cross our path. There are those who pretend like things are picture perfect all the time and they love everyone every single day. Today, I'm here to break that pretending nature and to say confidently that about two or three days out of the week I would rather not see or hear from another human being. I'm that person who feels best when I'm in my own company but I do enjoy the company of a selected few. So this blog post is entitled how to solve the biggest problems with people. Everyone has problems with someone every now and again and if you say you don't you are probably the biggest pretender on earth. What I do to solve my biggest problems with people is to avoid them and clear my mind. I try to understand their reasons for why they are the way they are, I also try to place my self in the situation to see h

So you've just started a new relationship but he is reluctant to post anything about you on his social media platforms. You get frustrated and the first thing that pops into your mind is that he is being unfaithful for he is ashamed of you. Is it that important for the world to know about the new love in your life? Do you need to share every aspect of your relationship with the world? Like the question stated, it's your relationship not the entire world therefore the world needs to know nothing that takes place in your relationship. The need to put your love life out there often comes from the want of social media validation. We want people to see that we are in love and we want them to be accepting of the love that we have found. Many of my readers will pause right there and disagree with me but that is indeed the truth even if you don't want to accept it. Some of us spend more time on the social media portrayal of our love life than we do on the actual relationship. What

Do you remember those old time romance movies and those fairytales that left  us concluding that love is always a beautiful thing and we all have the perfect soul mate out there? Well, welcome to the real world where relationships fall apart just like that and the perfect person on paper is never the perfect person in reality.  The thing is we expect long lasting relationships to be a reality when we already have issues with everyday interactions. The way we relate to each other on a day to day basis has broken down over the years. Based on how older generations speak about their times it was as though respect for self and others was the most important thing. Women respected their bodies and men appreciated a good woman. In our generation now women fall for vanity and men get lost in the swing of hips rather than the goodness of the heart. So are happy relationships a myth? Well no they aren't but they are becoming harder and harder to find. The next thing is the laziness that we h

Let me start off firstly by saying my hair is currently in a state of transition. I've been transitioning from relaxed back to its natural state but I'm still not sure if I will take the ultimate step and cut off my relaxed ends. The natural movement is a beautiful movement to see. I love seeing our ladies embracing their natural hair textures. However, what I can't stand to see is the hatred that they show towards those ladies who have opted not to go back to their natural textures for whatever reasons.  Natural hair ladies are always quick to say that men shouldn't be focusing on their exterior but on what's on the inside yet still they spend all their time speaking down on the physical exteriors of ladies with relaxed hair. Please ladies don't forget that a couple months ago or years ago you were fully contented with your relaxed hair and would question natural hair girls for not doing the same. The next issue I have is when natural hair girls put

Isn't a beautiful feeling when we see our Jamaican children dressed in their Jamaican colours with their smiling faces. It really is a beautiful sight but the sadness always comes to the fore front for me. Our children know little or nothing about our culture. They find it boring but they lose themselves in the culture of other countries. Something needs to be done to ensure that our children are fully aware of the Jamaican culture. If something isn't done what kind of future will we expect for our island? Who will be the story tellers, the folk singers? Everybody wants to sing songs of foreign lands but don't even know the words for our own native songs. The hard work of those who paved the way for us is quickly being erased. Many tourists to our shores are more knowledgable about our island than most of us are and they do this without losing the knowledge of their own home lands. Schools need to make Jamaican history compulsory in schools. Children should have to be taugh

The first thing that pops into the mind of most people when I think about Spanish Town, Jamaica is crime and violence. Majority of the times when you tell people that you are from Spanish Town they automatically assume that you are caught up in some form of illegal activities. Starting high school I was told that since I'm from Spanish Town I must have seen people being killed or I must have bad man friends. The same label followed me to university as well and the sad part of it all is I just got used to it.    I attended the St.Catherine primary school in the heart of the capital and had to deal with the crime and violence several times. It grew with me until the point where it didn't move me at all. The fact that I attended high school and university in Kingston meant that I had to travel late hours at night. The fear was always with me as I didn't have any friends who lived in the same community as I did. However, I overcame it all and grew to become accepting o

So you can't find the time or you just rather turn on your television screen and watch a movie. Well, there is nothing that can bring you greater comfort and bring your imagination to life than getting lost in a good book. Don't have the money to travel or you have a small social circle? A book can give your mind the opportunity to travel around the world and fall in love with various characters.   Step 1📍 Find a book that appeals to a certain situation that you are facing in life. Start off with a book that is relatable. A book that perhaps will give you guidance to deal with a situation or to overcome a problem that you are facing. Step 2 📍 Don't rush yourself. Take the time you need to get into the frame of my mind to become a lover of reading rather than having to force it. Start off reading a couple pages a day until you get yourself in the rhythm and before you know it you will develop the habit of reading. Step 3📍 Form book clubs so that you will have others to en

You spent sleepless nights, worked several jobs, borrowed millions in loans. You stand on that glorious day to collect the fruits of your hard labour. You are ready now to take on the real world and let your mark be seen. Pause! What did university really prepare you for? You don't know how to do some of the simpliest things in life. How do you look about housing? How do you look about insurance? How do you know when you are getting the best deals? Who do you run to? You run to your parents and they ask you if you didn't learn all of this in school. Throughout the many years of your university life you learn many things as it relates to passing your exams to get your degree but when it comes to practical things for everyday life you are still clueless. When you get lost in your university life you need to remember that the real life is going on all around you and it will not wait for you to play catch up. The next thing you are faced with after graduation is the la

For many years I heard about to kill a mockingbird but never had the opportunity to read the book itself. A couple months ago I decided to read literature books that I never read in school and were just laying around the house. I came across to kill a mockingbird and fell in love from the very first page. Harper Lee use of imagery and creativity with words captivated me from the very start to the end. The book has motivated me as a writer to learn to step out of the box and now allows me to learn how to make every single character's story as intriguing as the other. The talented Harper Lee's work is what is needed in writing today. Many authors have fallen into just grabbing any attention first and foremost rather than bringing a beautiful story to life. If you haven't yet read this beautiful book I encourage to do so now. The young characters in the book showed me that the youngest of individuals strength can capture the hearts of an entire community. Thank you Harpe