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Five things that continue to make us unhappy

1. Continually focusing on other people success

     It's always good to see others becoming more and more successful and success stories can help to motivate us to become even more successful ourselves. However, becoming obsessed with the success of others may just leave us feeling bad about ourselves. Others may be moving fast on their path to success while you find yourself moving a bit slowly. We need to to step back at times and realize that each of us are on different paths and we can't keep comparing ourselves or becom envious of the success of others.

2. Working just to pay the bills

   Yes we all need money to make ends meet but just getting up and going to work just for working sake will drive you crazy!!! We need to find some form of joy in the work we do not just do it because we know it's something we have to do. Ever wonder why so many of us are so stressed out despite having the money come in every week? It's often times because we are putting so much effort into this job that is not doing anything for us except adding stress. We need to enjoy what we are doing or it will just drive us to madness.

3. Comparing our relationships with those of others

How many times do you find yourself saying , "I wish he would hold me like that or why can't he kiss me like that?" These type of thinking will only cause us to stray from our partner or cause our partner to feel as if they are not good enough. In this age of social media with couples showcasing their love for the world to see many of us find ourselves sitting on the outside just wishing and hoping that you could experience what they have. Let me just point this out to you, things are not always as they seem. We need to focus on our own relationships and not become consumed with those of others.

4.Jealousy over looks

   Well well isn't this a very important one. This goes especially for girls, as we as females will spend hours analyzing our looks and wondering what we can improve upon to look like someone else. In a world where makeup and the latest hairstyles are always trending topics we find ourselves either feeling inadequate or over spending on products to try and reach the ideal look. This type of obsession with our looks will just leave us feeling unhappy about ourselves.


5.Dwelling on the bad things in your life
   Hello!! Bad things happen to everyone not just you however, in order to move forward with your life you have to focus on the good things more than you do the bad. You can't just spend all your days thinking about how you can handle all the bad things that keep happening to you as that will only steal what little joy you have left. You have to find the time to allow the good that you do have going on for you to grow even more. Out with the bad and in with the good!!!





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