No, the heading isn't a mistake but I figured since the world is so sex consumed it would be a sure way to the get the attention of my readers today. I did an experiment in my page a couple years ago just to get a look inside the mind of people. On my facebook page I realized that when I wrote a poem or story centered around a strong sexual theme it received more attention. People had so much input and praised my writing skills. However, some of my best writings based on fellow writers are not those centered around sexual themes but in order for people to get a message it seems you have to associate it with sex.   I am not trying to deter people from reading romance novels or engaging in sexual discussions I'm just trying to show that a balance is important. Take for instance the fifty shades of grey movie that has stirred so much attention. Why isn't the same attention or even more shown towards the movie Selma that is about the snuggles of our black people? Majority of my...

  Am I the only one who is really tired of the terms 'side woman' and 'side man' or matey as Jamaicans tend to call it? From the good old days coming from the bible men where somewhat expected to have more than one woman and nothing was thought of it while women were expected to always be pure and virtuous. Fast forward to present times and men are still somewhat expected to have more than one woman while on the other hand to some extent women are still expected to be pure and virtuous. People no longer slaughter a lamb or give sacrifices on an altar to God so apparently things have changed from then till now. As hard as some of you women might find it to believe there are some men out there who can remain faithful to one woman. Want to know what I believe the problem is? Women have simply say down and accepted that this just how men are supposed to be, so much so that they are proud to be called a side chick or contented to be called the wife despite knowing that he ha...

   So today, I was just scrolling through my facebook feed and it hit me that most of the talk of the day was centered around the lives of celebrities. Do some of us even form our own opinions or we just simply go with whatever celebrities promote? Perhaps many of you are not aware of the fact that these celebrities have no idea who you are not do they care about your opinions. Then there are some individuals who will sit and write paragraphs under celebrities photographers proclaim get their love for them or telling them how to live there lives. The time you spend pouring out your heart to some of these celebrities you could be using to help improve your very own life. I am not saying that it's wrong to have role models or see someone who you would like to emulate but for heavens sake can you try and look up to someone who is adding some form of substance to this world. The world has enough women with the perfect bodies and the perfect skin, what the world needs is women who ...

1 . Continually focusing on other people success      It's always good to see others becoming more and more successful and success stories can help to motivate us to become even more successful ourselves. However, becoming obsessed with the success of others may just leave us feeling bad about ourselves. Others may be moving fast on their path to success while you find yourself moving a bit slowly. We need to to step back at times and realize that each of us are on different paths and we can't keep comparing ourselves or becom envious of the success of others. 2. Working just to pay the bills    Yes we all need money to make ends meet but just getting up and going to work just for working sake will drive you crazy!!! We need to find some form of joy in the work we do not just do it because we know it's something we have to do. Ever wonder why so many of us are so stressed out despite having the money come in every week? It's often times because we ar...

Am I good enough? Let me see how many likes I got on my picture Is my breast too small? Maybe I need to put on some more makeup I don't feel like I look good enough People like her more than me its reflected on the hundreds of likes that she receives The world is filled with robots Everybody looking the same, everybody doing the same thing Are you good enough? Maybe I need to brush my hair a little more We insert our pictures into the program and wait for the outcome We sit waiting on the confirmation from the world To let us know if we are good enough The outcome will either cause our system to break or overload from gratification  So many end their lives because of the ridicule Eyebrows over fleeked or your outfit was on repeat Are you good enough? You check your Instagram feed Like robots we follow the leaders and we don't even ask why Why do we need these things to feel validated? Just click like and life will be just right  When the Inter...

Many of us say that we are living life to the fullest and we are living with no regrets. However, at the end of the day when you have left school or work how accomplished do you feel? How alive do you feel sitting at work and doing whatever task your boss asks of you? How alive do you feel sitting in a classroom and learning about things that your teachers believe that you should learn about in order to become accomplished? At the end of the day many of us are simply just tir ed and we haven't even started to live as yet. Our heads are hung low because we carry the burden of all those people who are pushing us in so many directions. When are you getting married? Why aren't you driving as yet? When are you having children? Will those things make you feel alive? If not why go after them if you are only keeping up appearances? Many of us are living the perfect lives for others and are yet to live for ourselves. Don't die before you are dead.

   I'm not yet a parent so perhaps I don't know all there is to know about being a parent just yet. However, I have been a child for 23 years and I have observed parents and children over these years. When a child gets up and does something wrong the first person who is blamed is the parent. This is because a parent is deemed responsible for his or her child's actions. This conclusion does has its flaws as a parent can teach their child the right way to do things but the child decides to disobey anyways. On the other hand however, a parent can be very much held responsible for putting their child on the wrong path which results in the child choosing to do wrongs in society.     In life we apfind ourselves so busy from time to time. Trying to make a better life for ourselves and our families. This drive to succeed is indeed a good path to go on and a good model for child. However, with this dedication to ones work comes the consequences of neglecting the needs of...